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Praying For My Children Through Pain

October 6, 2021

How do we respond when Devastation and Destruction come to visit? How do we respond when it is aimed at our children? John 10:10 states, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.”

Most of us would rather take on the pain and devastation ourselves than see our children hurting and broken. When my children were younger, I could console them when they had a bad dream, or tape up a torn page from a favorite book, or even repair a broken toy. However, when my adult children faced a miscarriage, a broken marriage, and other devastating storms, bringing waves of pain and sorrow, I was unable to “fix it” or “make it all better.”

Discouragement was a dreaded visitor. How could God allow such hurtful and painful events to come near my home, my children? Questioning why and how these things happened did not bring us answers. The devastation was real and what we needed most, was to engage in fervent, faith-filled prayer. I knew that as long as we drew near to God and His promises, we would see His Goodness, even in this. It was a call to war; a “Boots on the Ground” spiritual battle for my children. I adjusted my armor of God (see Ephesians 6:10-18) and began to pray with the renewed passion that had only been fueled to a greater level by pain. Pain can either paralyze us or serve to propel us into the most intense prayer journey of our lives. In these situations, I chose the latter.

James 5:13 says, “Is anyone suffering? Let him pray.” And, pray I did; searching the Scripture to pray back to God what He had promised. This is the most powerful strategy I know. After all, God will never deny Who He is and what He has spoken. Numbers 23:19 says, “God is not man, that he should lie, or a son of man, that he should change his mind. Has he said, and will he not do it? Or has he spoken, and will he not fulfill it?”

As a mom, my privilege and responsibility is to nurture my children in the teachings of Jesus so that they will depend upon Him all the days of their life. My Scripture Prayer for them is Isaiah 54:13, “All my children shall be taught of the Lord and great shall be their peace.”

In order for the Lord to teach them, they have to establish their own relationship with Jesus and go through storms with their eyes upon Him! I couldn’t face the storm for them, but I could come alongside them with encouragement and prayer. I could point them to Jesus and allow His Presence to bring comfort and direction. Great Sorrow resulted in Great Joy as they saw Jesus working in the midst of their pain. We cried together, prayed together and believed together, but it was the Holy Spirit’s work that brought them through. We joined together with fasting and prayer, and faith. In submitting to His Process, we asked for a work to be done in us. We began to believe Job 23:10, “But he knows the way that I take; when he has tried me, I shall come out as gold.” Nothing was wasted!!! We prayed and believed for healing, for restoration and miracles! We asked God to search us, to reveal in us what needed to be revealed. 

“We cried together, prayed together and believed together, but it was the Holy Spirit’s work that brought them through.”

In each and every story of pain, suffering and brokenness, we experienced God’s Mercy, Love and Grace. To be honest, the outcome looked a bit different than I had anticipated. I am so thankful, because God worked it out FAR BETTER than I had expected.

So, when storms occur (and they will), Rise Up, Pray and Stand your Ground! He is right there, working out all things for your good, and the good of your children. He is bringing about incredible growth. The greater the storm, the deeper the roots will go, causing strength and luscious fruit to be revealed in the process.

“Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need” (Hebrews 4:16).

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